Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, and don’t put up with people that are reckless with yours.

“A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself – to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart. – Leo F. Buscaglia

“It’s over between us” says cousin Jenny over the phone.”Jenny, this is the 100th time you’ve been telling me that! I bet after 4 days, you’ll be dialing his number again willing to go back on the most demeaning ways, my exasperated reply to her news.

I will not deny that I’ve been into bad relationships before. The roller coaster ride of breaking up and making up was so enticing and thrilling in the beginning. Then, it turned to be like a bad habit and I found myself hooked with seemingly no visible exits!

I thought I was in love because I lost my mind. Isn’t it that’s how they defined love: when you feel going out of yourself to reach out for the other?

No matter how many times did I try to defend myself from my family and friend’s advice to “wake up and bail ship”? To argue that they don’t understand, that my partner is special and I have faith in this person’s capacity to change for the better.

The inevitable split between us, is actually a pause. These pauses are the periods when I pretend that I’ve found the strength to move on, or the (in)significant other has expressed a need for space. The more I try to be adamant in my decision to end it up, the more I find myself yearning for this (in)significant other.

Just like all addictions, relapsed catalyst are like lap dancers: they taunt you with her seductive movements, moving your desires like a whirlpool until finally her presence will occupy your mind till you will stand up to reach out for her. The dollars in you wallet say ” everybody out 1 exit ” !!!!

I wish I knew how to quit you! -Jack Twist

What is it that takes hold of us to a certain person? Why does this capable and rational woman like my cousin Jenny would remain so intensely involved with a man who is consistently rejecting, who repeatedly causes her pain? Why, when she tries to give up this relationship, does she experience even more acute torment?

Why can’t we quit a person when it’s only giving us stress or shall we say, a bad relationship? I see it as an addiction. It is common for a person in a love relationship to become addicted to the other. I’ll bet one of you will argue that it is simply love or sense of commitment, right?

I think love and commitment gives you a freedom to choose another person. On the contrary, when you have a compulsive drive to go back to this person, then it is limiting your freedom, so it is addiction! The same holds true for smoking, drinking, gambling, etc.

Whether our addiction is to a substance or a person, this sense of incompleteness, emptiness, despair, sadness, and being lost will find its relief when we are in touch with this something or someone outside ourself.

I agree with Leo Buscaglia when he said ”a relationship is based upon freedom”.

Freedom is what I needed. Thus yrs ago I completely turned my back away from every bad relationship I found myself in . Until I found that person who will be by my side


Maybe the most that you can expect from a relationship that goes bad is to come out of it with a few good songs.
Marianne Faithfull

I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury.
Groucho Marx

I just broke up with someone and the last thing she said to me was ‘You’ll never find anyone like me again!’ I’m thinking, ‘I should hope not! If I don’t want you, why would I want someone like you.’

The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe, is the discovery of another human being with whom one’s relationship has a glowing depth, beauty, and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing, it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of Divine accident. -Sir Hugh Walpoe

A girl can wait for the right man to come along, but in the meantime that still doesn’t mean she can’t have a wonderful time with all the wrong ones.

Relationships are hard. It’s like a full-time job, and we should treat it like one. If your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to leave you, they should give you two weeks’s notice. There should be severance pay and before they leave you, they should have to find you a temp.
“- Bob Ettinger

The only one who should have to pay for a bad relationship is the person in your next relationship. – by Miranda from Sex and the city

However good or bad you feel about your relationship, the person you are with at this moment is the “right” person, because he or she is the mirror of who you are inside. – Deepak Chopra

I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it
seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that
you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things:
a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that
regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re
gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a living is not the same thing as
making a life. I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both
hands; you need to be able to throw some things back. I’ve learned that whenever
I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve
learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that
every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or
just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn.
I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you
did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. -Maya Angelou

If you want to build trust in a relationship, make sure you use appropriate body language. When you speak to someone, face them directly, (nose to nose, toes to toes) rather than at an angle where their perception may be that you are giving them the “cold shoulder.- Sharon Johnson

Men are from earth. Women are from earth. Deal with it. – Author Unknown

Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships. – Stephen R. Covey

Little kindness and courtesies are so important. In relationships, the little things are the big things. Stephen R. Covey

A deadness occurs in relationships when people are no longer willing to tell each other how they really feel. Shakti Gawain

Our greatest joy-and our greatest pain comes in our relationships with others. Stephen R. Covey

Commitment is inherent in any genuinely loving relationship. -M Scott Peck

Any relationship primarily built on physical attractiveness is predestined to be short lived. Zig Ziglar

Before we can have a successful relationship with anyone, we first need a perfect personal relationship. Russ Von Hoelscher

Don’t rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself. Feel yourself, experience yourself and love yourself. Do this first and you will soon attract that special loving other. Russ Von Hoelscher

Problems in relationship occur because each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person. Wayne Dyer

Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement…all success… all achievement in real life grows. – Ben Stein

When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself. Deepak Chopra

If one does not wish bonds broken, one should make them elastic and thereby strengthen them. – Ardant du Picq

It’s okay to send flowers, but don’t let the flowers do all the talking. Flowers have a limited vocabulary. About the best flowers can say is that you remembered. – Jim Rohn

All disagreements are results of misunderstanding someone else’s level of consciousness. – Deepak Chopra

Sex is always about emotions. Good sex is about free emotions; bad sex is about blocked emotions. Deepak Chopra

Before you try to change others, remember how hard it is to change yourself. – Bill Bluestein

Every person is a new door to a different world. – from the movie “Six Degrees of Separation”

Associate yourself with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation; for ’tis better to be alone than in bad company. – George Washington

an argument is always about what has been made more important than the relationship. -Hugh Prather

Everyone and everything around you is your teacher. – Ken Keyes, Jr.

The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed. – Carl Jung

If those around you can’t listen and support you in your efforts, they have no place in your life. Author unknown

It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others. – Sidney J. Harris

No one makes you feel anything. It is how you react and respond that determines your emotions. – Brian Tracy

Random events in our lives, or people who do not prove predictable, undermine our sense of control, leading to unhappiness. Deepak Chopra

What you call flaws are really just the scars of hurts and wounds accumulated over a lifetime. Deepak Chopra

When you judge another person, you do not define him or her, you define yourself. – Wayne Dyer

Ignore people who tell you “you can’t” or try to discourage you. – Jeffrey Gitomer

Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, and don’t put up with people that are reckless with yours. – Kurt Vonnegut, Jr.

You can end half your troubles immediately by no longer permitting people to tell you what you want. – Vernon Howard, 1918-1992

We always see others in the light of our belief; we always feel seen in the light of their beliefs. Deepak Chopra

can’t stay mad at somebody who makes you laugh. – Jay Leno

Two great talkers will not travel far together. – Spanish Proverb

No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another. – Charles Dickens

One of the greatest gifts you can give to anyone is the gift of attention.- Jim Rohn

Go out into the world today and love the people you meet. Let your presence light new light in the hearts of people. – Mother Teresa

Man is a knot into which relationships are tied. -Antoine de Exuperey

Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude. – William James

Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do,cause hate in your heart will consume you too. -Will Smith

Relationships of all kinds are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but mostly it will be spilled. A relationships is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost. -Kahlil Jamison

We talk about the quality of product and service. What about the quality of our relationships and the quality of our communications and the quality of our promises to each other? – Max depree

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. – Marcel Proust

The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender; because this kiss already has within it that surrender.- Emil Ludwig


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