Never Quit ,Never Retire, and Never Ever Give Up

Don’t retire from the world until the world is sorry. I dislike a person whom pride, cowardice, or laziness runs to a corner and does nothing there but sit and complain. 21 yrs ago I was, alone, broke, with an option of being homeless or LIVING still at home, never been outside of NY/NJ hadn’t read a book in yrs and didn’t have a clue about my destiny. Now I have been to 38 countries and 42 states and have read 2534 books, lived in Europe for 5 yrs, have a wonderful family and money will never be an issue in my life.
Four yrs ago I knew nothing about playing a piano, skydiving deep-sea diving, ball room dancing, playing poker or chess, mountain climbing, fly fishing, white water rapids and flying a plane. In Jan I will graduate with my MBA ten yrs after I started and have done all the above and I know exactly where I will be and what I want.
Never quit… Never give up and never listen to critics who don’t have the courage to follow their dreams but are quick to respond to yours. They will call you “sick’ or tell you it can’t be done but they are sheep whose destiny is to always be sheep willing to be led to the slaughter-house.

Test your self always and everyday and when we are no longer able to change a situation we can always be challenged to change ourselves.

IF you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;
If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
‘ Or walk with Kings – nor lose the common touch,
if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you’ll be a Man, my son!

R Kipling


Thoughts I was pondering after eating too much Turkey

Why is it considered necessary to nail down the lid of a coffin?
Why don’t you ever see the headline “Psychic Wins Lottery”?
If a man says something in the woods and there are no women there, is he still wrong?
If a person with multiple personalities threatens suicide, is that considered a hostage situation?
If quitters never win, and winners never quit, what fool came up with, “Quit while you’re ahead”?

Why doesn’t glue stick to the inside of the bottle?
Why is it that doctors call what they do “practice”?
Why is the man who invests all your money called a broker?
Why can’t they make the whole plane out of the same substance that little indestructible black box is?

Can fat people go skinny-dipping?
If a cow laughed, would milk come out her nose?
So what’s the speed of dark?
How come abbreviated is such a long word?

Since light travels faster than sound, isn’t that why some people appear bright until you hear them speak?
Ever wonder what the speed of lightning would be if it didn’t zigzag?
If it’s true that we are here to help others, then what exactly are the OTHERS here for?
A bus station is where a bus stops. A train station is where a Train stops On my desk, I have a work station..

If Fed Ex and UPS were to merge, would they call it Fed UP?
Do Lipton employees take coffee breaks?
What hair color do they put on the driver’s licenses of bald men?
Should women put pictures of missing husbands on beer cans?

Why do people seem to read the Bible a whole lot more as they get older … they were cramming for their finals!
Why is it the people who believe that everything is Gods will look both ways before they cross the street
Why do they put pictures of criminals up in the Post Office?
What are we supposed to do . . . write to these men?

How much deeper would oceans be if sponges didn’t live there?
If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

I went for a walk last night and my daughter asked me how long I’d be gone. I said, “The whole time.”
After eating, do amphibians need to wait an hour before getting OUT of the water?
Why don’t they just make mouse-flavored cat food?
If you’re sending someone some Styrofoam, what do you pack it in?

I just got skylights put in my place. The people who live above me are furious.
Why do they sterilize needles for lethal injections?

Isn’t Disney World a people trap operated by a mouse?
Whose cruel idea was it for the word “lisp” to have an “s” in it?
Why can’t you find fresh sardines in the fish market?

Why does Wendy’s have square hamburgers?
Why does an “X” stand for a kiss?
Why does the word “Filipino” start with the letter F ? and finally

How did hell did Auburn beat Alabama ?

As Arsenio Hall said ” things that make you go HUMMMMM

My Thanksgiving wish for all

“The New Frontier of which I speak is not a set of promises; it is a set of challenges. It sums up not what I intend to offer the American people, but what I intend to ask of them. It appeals to their pride, not to their pocketbook. It holds out the promise of more sacrifice instead of more security.” JFK

Two days before Thanksgiving I am truly thankful that I live in this great country of ours, and most of all that the vision that JFK had can still be.

But sometimes I bemoan the lack of leadership I think to myself that instead of wishing for that person to emerge, perhaps that person is me.

Why should I wait for another, and not become that myself? Perhaps some of the people who have written here could become the leaders they desire.

I know when I think of doing it that for me it would take enormous courage. It is certainly not how I imagined my life and I don’t think I’m well suited to it. There would also be something embarrassing about it, the sincerity required, the speaking out, the revealing of one’s heart and one’s concern and even love for the collectivity and for justice in an era when this is derided as old-fashioned etc.

And yet, and yet…wouldn’t there be something liberating about it? To have a large voice, not a small one, and not to hide one’s convictions?

Is there a commentator here who might become that leader? And if not seeking the highest offices, maybe more of us can become leaders in smaller venues and organizations, finally revealing who we really are.

If not us, who? Who are we waiting for?

The notion of the hero figure has long been part of popular culture. Tales of Robin Hood have been told for approximately 700 years—describing England under the oppressive grasp of Prince John, a medieval, hooded master bowman dressed in Lincoln green, stealing from the rich to give to the poor. J. K. Rowling has given us a modern hero, Harry Potter, the young wizard battling the forces of the evil Voldemort. Of course heroism takes on a whole new meaning when the savior figures concerned are super heroes with super powers. The epitome of this genre is probably Superman, the “Man of Steel,” gifted with X-ray vision, the ability to fly and superhuman strength, whose abilities are used to help save mankind from nefarious villains or natural disasters.

The hero theme is also seen in modern music. In the mid 1980s, the Welsh singer Bonnie Tyler cried out “I need a hero” in her pop ballad, “Holding Out For A Hero.” This song was later used in the film Shrek 2, in a scene where Shrek comes to Fiona’s rescue, saving her from the clutches of the handsome but hapless imposter Prince Charming. More recently, the Canadian singer Lights, in her song “Saviour,” expresses the need for someone to come and save her—sooner rather than later.

The prevalence of this recurrent theme over the generations may indicate a deep-seated hope people have that all will turn out okay—someone will take action, come to their rescue and save them from the current peril or crisis.

It seems that when it comes to heroes we just can’t get enough. Of course, this longing is all just fantasy and could be excused as harmless escapism. It could never apply in the real world. Or could it? Sadly, many of the most despotic world leaders of previous centuries came in the guise of benevolent saviors, who rose to take on godlike status, leaving millions dead in the wake of their flawed programs. Mussolini, Hitler, Stalin, Mao and Pol Pot are some from more recent history who come immediately to mind. (See Messiahs! Rulers and the Role of Religion). Unlike many of the heroes of literature, song and film, these all too real characters did not work for the common good. Yet amazingly many average, ordinary people, looked to these “heroes” to solve their problems. It seems that when there are desperate times many people fall prey to desperate remedies.

Some may argue that living in a more enlightened and democratic age, there is less risk of people looking to authoritarian figures to lead them and giving carte blanche to their policies. Modern Western societies especially appear much more skeptical and seem to be less easily fooled with tokenism and rhetoric than earlier cultures. Combine this with a mistrust of politicians and the political process, and you have a recipe for people taking it upon themselves to provide their own solutions to problems. In their song, “Land of Confusion,” the rock group Genesis asks the question: “Superman where are you now?” In a land of too many people contributing to too many problems, they offer the hope that their generation will put it right. Rather than look to a superhero figure, they suggest we look to ourselves:

This is the world we live in
And these are the hands we’re given
Use them and let’s start trying
To make it a world worth living in.

On the face of it this would seem to be an ideal approach: appropriate action taken at a local level, where it is needed, by the people that are intrinsically involved. Indeed, many local community action projects thrive as a result of grassroots movements established by local citizens. While there is much good that we can do to help ourselves and others on a local level, human nature being what it is, this same principle is sometimes wrongly applied. For example, vigilantism, where an individual or group take the law into their own hands and seek retribution or revenge, is a darker side of the same approach.

But to get to to the heart of the matter – we are not looking forward to anything – we’ve heard the mantra of fear so long, we, as a people, have forgotten our own strengths. Kennedy, so what you will, was a leader – he made you want to get in there and do something – not like today. People who actually “do” something are reviled, demeaned and erased into oblivion. Maybe we need to stop looking for a leader and bond together as the nation we once were. Help the hungry instead of sending Xmas cards. Donate clothes instead of buying more. Put down your phones and talk to someone who could use a friend.

So live your life that the fear of death can never enter your heart.
Trouble no one about their religion; respect others in their view, and
Demand that they respect yours. Love your life, perfect your life,
Beautify all things in your life. Seek to make your life long and
Its purpose in the service of your people.

Prepare a noble death song for the day when you go over the great divide.
Always give a word or a sign of salute when meeting or passing a friend,
Even a stranger, when in a lonely place. Show respect to all people and
Bow to none. When you arise in the morning, give thanks for the food and
For the joy of living. If you see no reason for giving thanks,
The fault lies only in yourself. Abuse no one and nothing,
For abuse turns the wise ones to fools and robs the spirit of its vision.

When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts
Are filled with fear of death, so that when their time comes
They weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again
In a different way. Sing your song live your dreams and die like a hero going home.”

Tecumseh Shawnee Chief said this yrs ago . This is my wish for everybody

5 points about about soulmates

We’ve all heard stories about people who lock eyes across a crowded room and know for sure they’ll marry each other. They are soul mates, right? Could be. But that’s not the only way you meet them, and it’s certainly not always instant love. Toss your preconceived notions about soul mates and learn what the experts say. It may surprise you.

Soul mates are matches made in heaven. According to Yale Chaplain Rabbi James Ponet, traditional (Judeo-Christian) ideas about soul mates are summed up in this 2nd Century story:

A wealthy Roman matron says to a rabbinic sage, “Since your Creator God made the universe in seven days, what’s he been doing since?” The Sage replied, “He’s been making couples.” The Roman woman says, “I can do that!” She proceeds to command one hundred slaves to be coupled off and sends them to a great dwelling. After one night, the place is in shambles; the couples have fought and degenerated into chaos. In defeat and shame, she goes back to the Sage and says, “Oh, that’s no minor thing that your God does.”

And that’s why it is common to believe that marriages are made in heaven. In Hebrew the word is B’shert — roughly translated as “beloved” or “The One.” This is where the basic idea of soul mates originates.
I am a: Man Woman Seeking a: Man Woman Near: Soul mates are not a one-shot deal. Don’t panic. You didn’t miss meeting your soul mate when you skipped going to that party last weekend. Soul mates find you if you’re open to them. Besides, you don’t have one great love — you have many potential great loves. According to New York Minister and Psycho-Spiritual Counselor, Susan Lemak, soul mates are profound soul connections in your life. When you’re with one, you stop looking, so you’re not aware of the other potential soul mates around you. While you’re thinking how hard it is to find The One, the reality is that it’s hard for you to choose. A soul mate is someone who reflects or matches your energy and your path in life. A soul mate is someone whose power and potential are complementary to your own. And you’ll find them in the most unlikely places. Lemak adds, “You know that great person sitting near you at work? The one who makes you laugh, but might be 10 pounds overweight? Maybe not the coolest person — but dig a little deeper. You could find a soul mate in there.”

Soul mates are about work, not play. The word “soul” opens a gigantic can of karma. While dating and light relationships are all about fun and playfulness, soul mates are all about deep emotional support, trust and faith. When you choose to go deeper with someone, you’re opening yourself up — you become emotionally vulnerable. Susan Strong, San Mateo-based astrologer and metaphysical counselor jokes, “Sometimes our soul mates become our cross to bear. You marry someone who is your soul mate and, over time, you realize you’re connected not just through chemistry, but because you are there to help each other.”

Most guys don’t think about soul mates, no matter what The Bachelor says. Strong also considers the very concept of soul mates a more feminine event. “Men don’t look for soul mates nor do they really think about meeting their soul mate. Sure, a man can be in a happy, committed, connected relationship, but he won’t necessarily tell his friends that he’s with his soul mate.” Women are more aware of a soul connection because they are more introspective in that way. Women need to feel a deeper connection with a man. That soul connection is there — but men just don’t define it.

Soul mates are not necessarily permanent. Like the ending of a fairy tale, we’re often raised to believe that a soul mate is our “happily ever after.” How old were you when realized that fairy tales don’t come true? Soul mates are certainly considered the prince charming and his princess of modern romance. Yet what happens if your romance goes sour — that soul mate turns out to be a mismatch? Of course you’re not out of luck. You move on, heal, and open up to the next soul mate. If you look at the traditional idea of soul mates, your beloved, you’ll realize that a higher force may have more than one love in store for you. To love someone and be loved is a deeply spiritual state.

In the words of St. Theresa of Avila, “Accustom yourself continually to make many acts of love, for they enkindle and melt the soul.”

Why I joined the Military

One night as I lay awake in bed, in Iraq, I realized if I had had more in the area of mental toughness at an early age, I probably would have realized my dream earlier. I was plenty tough according to my peers. I was in Army Special Forces Unit that dealt with explosives and Bomb Disposal. But if I had more mental toughness, I believe it would have made all the difference in the world.

That’s the night I decided I would leave the Military. I become an expert in achieving my Dreams not by getting a degree in psychology, but by studying the greatest performers in the world like a scientist and uncovering what made them great. I would learn the secrets on the street instead of in the classroom. After all, I already had a lifetime of experience competing in survival. All I needed to do was hone in on the subtleties that separated the great performers from everyone else.

It took much time, research, interviews, and observation. But I was starting to understand the group of people I affectionately labeled ‘The Great Ones’.

I started to see where I had missed the boat, and I realized it wasn’t by much. I had been close to world-class mental toughness, but got derailed due to a few major mistakes: check to see if you’re making any of these errors in thinking that made me late in achieving my dreams…so it won’t cost you yours:

Mistake # 1. I listened to too many people.

Everyone around me had an opinion about how I should be, compete, and think. Looking back now I realize that these people meant well, but most were middle-class thinkers who didn’t even understand world-class thinking. What I discovered is that the world class builds mentor teams of people who are far more successful then they are, and that’s where they go for coaching and advice. They tend to block everyone else out.

Mistake # 2. My friends were all ‘middle-class thinkers’

I realized that almost everyone I hung out with fell into middle class thinking even the women . In other words, they were nice, average people…getting middle-class results. Middle-class thinkers believe the world-class results are for other people. They refer to world-class thinking as ‘ Pie in the sky’ and ‘Unrealistic’. My mom told me when I was 5 years old to be careful whom I hung out with because I would begin to think like them eventually. I wish I had paid more attention to that advice.

Mistake # 3. I didn’t know that consciousness was contagious

I had no idea that the middle-class thinkers I was spending most of my time with were literally rubbing off on my thought processes, habits and philosophies. I had started out thinking like a champion and getting world-class results, but the more I hung around people with middle-class consciousness the more I became like them. As a matter of fact, the less success I had, the more they seemed to accept me. I think it made them feel better about their own middle-class results.

Mistake # 4. I didn’t understand that world-class habits, actions and behaviors are driven by world-class expectation.

I always thought desire was the driving force behind motivation, but I was wrong. Everyone wants great results in their life, but how many people do you know putting in a Herculean effort to get those results? Probably very few, and the reason says more about their level of expectation than it does about their desire. When I was 20 years old there were only a handful of people who could beat me in anything. When I walked on the path with anyone else, I always expected to win. Therefore I was extremely motivated to train and practice. My expectation of success kept me out working my competitors. When my results started to drop and my positive expectation followed, my motivation began to wane. I still had the desire to win, but I no longer expected to win.

Mistake # 5. I didn’t know that behavior follows belief

I didn’t know anything about the law of cause and effect. I didn’t know that if you want to upgrade your results, you go straight to the cause. If you want to find out why you are getting the results you’re getting in any area of your life, do a through examination of the beliefs you have that surround that area. Beliefs are the cause and behavior is the effect. If you upgrade what you believe you will upgrade your behavior, and when you upgrade your behavior you upgrade your results. When I believed I was a champion, I trained like a champion. When I believed I was loser ,I trained like a loser and because of that

Mistake # 6. I joined the US Army because I was chasing a woman. True story …Even smart men do stupid things also 🙂

What makes a Man

“What a piece of work is a man, how noble in reason, how infinite in faculties, in form and moving how express and admirable, in action how like an angel, in apprehension how like a god! the beauty of the world, the paragon of animals—and yet, to me, what is this quintessence of dust? Man delights not me— nor woman neither, though by you’re smiling you seem to say so.”
“Hamlet” William Shakesphere

Being a kid is a blast. Unfortunately, we grow up, and things change. Our actions in everyday situations become more difficult, and ultimately define our character. How we handle these 5 moments that define a man?

#1 – Choosing to Marry This moment comes long before you pop the question. Ask yourself not whether you’ll still want to sleep with her in 20 years (you will), but how you’ll react when you discover what brand of sugar and spice she’s truly made of. A promising answer: “We’re still a pretty good team.”

#2 – Becoming a Father There are tons of fatherhood variables, but we do know one simple truth: The only times you’ll suck at being a dad are the moments you refuse to put your kids’ needs first. If you’re ready to prioritize them consistently, you’ll cruise.

#3 – Receiving Your First Real Defeat: I don’t mean losing to Springfield during your sophomore year. The adult defeats – job losses, divorces, family estrangement – are the ones that cut deep into the ego, because they spotlight failure of temper, character, and adaptability. Are you able to limp to your feet, spit the turf out of your mouth, and smile with your two front teeth missing? You’d better be. People rally around that guy.

#4 – Becoming an Orphan: The day both your mom and dad are officially gone is a defining one. No more training. No more advice. No more free meals on Thanksgiving Day. It’s your turn to be the example at the head of the table. You don’t have to wear a cardigan when you carve the turkey, but you do have to take up the knife. Don’t cut yourself.

#5 – Realizing You Don’t Know Everything: The younger you are when you experience this moment of clarity, the better. It means you’ll be humbler in the face of knowledge – that’s a good thing. It also means you’ll have more years to quest, to learn, to figure out everything from options trading to tying a tighter fly. You ain’t stupid, sir. But unlike Hamlet you ain’t God, either

A real man is a woman’s best friend. He will never stand her up and never let her down. He will reassure her when she feels insecure and comfort her after a bad day. He will inspire her to do things she never thought she could do; to live without fear and forget regret. He will enable her to express her deepest emotions and give in to her most intimate desires. He will make sure she always feels as though she’s the most beautiful woman in the room and will enable her to be the most confident, sexy, seductive, invincible…. No wait… I’m thinking of alcohol. Now if I only drank.

Why a Poverty mentality will not produce wealth or friends

When you lose faith, when do you go to find it? If you could answer that question the world would beat a path to your doorstep. At many stages in a person’s life faith seems to disappear just when it is needed the most. A illness or death in the family, a loss of job, a personal illness, sudden depression, financial setbacks, expectations that remain unfulfilled, and numerous other “losses” can cause a person to doubt what before had been a strong belief in the good things in life.

Fear and faith cannot co-exist. Either you are fearful or you are faithful. One is a negative belief and the other is positive. Faith defies logic, but it can be accelerated if it is put into practice. Applied faith is taking action in the direction of your belief. This means that you “act as if” the outcome you believe in is already a fact. Let no doubt or disbelief enter into your thinking because that negative thought will seep into your subconscious mind and allow an element of fear to launch a counter attack against what you truly want.

If you have a poverty mentality, you will not produce wealth. If you are cautious in creating friendships, you will not acquire wealth in relationships. If you withhold on your job, your job will never be fulfilling for you. If you fail to be of service, you will receive no recognition for going the extra mile. When you think thoughts of lack, that lack is what you attract into your life.

In our lives we must rely on only ourselves to muster up the faith that we need to get though life. The setbacks in life are no excuse to abandon our belief system. We need to envision the best possible outcome given the circumstances, and then walk into our future one faithful step at a time. The alternative is not acceptable for anyone who espouses a positive mental attitude.

From this statement, you will understand that the subconscious mind will translate into its physical equivalent a thought impulse of a negative or destructive nature, just as readily as it will act upon thought impulses of a positive or constructive nature. This accounts for the strange phenomenon which so many millions of people experience, referred to as “misfortune,” or “bad luck.”

There are millions of people who believe themselves “doomed” to poverty and failure, because of some strange force over which they believe they have no control. They are the creators of their own “misfortunes,” because of this negative belief, which is picked up by the subconscious mind, and translated into its physical equivalent.

This is an appropriate place at which to suggest again that you may benefit, by passing on to your subconscious mind, any desire which you wish translated into its physical equivalent, or monetary equivalent, in a state of expectancy or belief that the transmutation will actually take place. Your belief, or faith, is the element which determines the action of your subconscious mind. There is nothing to hinder you from “deceiving” your subconscious mind when giving it instructions through autosuggestion, To make this “deceit” more realistic, conduct yourself just as you would if you were already in possession of the material thing which you are demanding, when you call upon your subconscious mind.

The subconscious mind will transmute into its physical equivalent, by the most direct and practical media available, any order which is given to it in a state of belief, or faith that the order will be carried out.

Surely, enough has been stated to give a starting point from which one may, through experiment and practice, acquire the ability to mix faith with any order given to the subconscious mind. Perfection will come through practice. It cannot come by merely reading instructions.

It is essential for you to encourage the positive emotions as dominating forces of your mind, and discourage – and eliminate negative emotions.

A mind dominated by positive emotion, becomes a favorable abode for the state of mind known as faith. A mind so dominated may, at will, give the subconscious mind instructions, which it will accept and act upon immediately.

Be Your Very Best Always,

Source: Think and Grow Rich. Ballantine Books. 1996. Pgs. 51 & 52